Spooky Season Thoughts

Hello my beautiful friends! The days are getting longer and the nights a little more chilly but I haven’t let this seasonal mood get to me just yet!

This week, I can’t shake the feeling of turning 21. It’s like my life is coming together but not really, when does it start?!

Turning 21 next month, I look back at my life and realize I’ve never really stood still and took life for the way it was. I just kept moving forward, thinking about the next step or next goal. ANXIETY MUCH?

My life has changed SO much since then. I feel energized with happiness and genuine thoughts. Maybe it’s the concept of maturing and taking responsibility for more things in your life, but nowadays I just feel so grown and enlightened.

Maybe it’s the gym. I’ve never felt lighter and more toned in my life. All this energy I’m getting from here keeps me awake and I rarely take naps anymore!

I’ve also been thinking about investing in protein shakes. Aside from keeping track of my calorie intake, they’re just such an easier way to fill up that meal in my day. It’s frustrating not eating and then realizing you’re starving yourself at the end of a long day. What have you guys experienced with shakes?

Or maybe it’s my new set of nails I just spoiled myself to, it’s a treatment called SNS that’s loaded with Vitamin E and hardens your nails! Having my nails done makes me feel like an angelic fairy. Heck yeah!

I’ve also been super into accessorizing my fingers with RINGS. It gives me that flare when I talk and unconsciously move my hands around. Does anyone else relate? LOL. My current rings aren’t featured here but Charlotte Russe has a large selection and deals like 2 for $10. That’s where I’ve been heading to!

Or the thrilling satisfaction of starting a new book, CRAZY RICH ASIANS! I saw the movie and was blown away by the amount of story and slight divide between Asians and Asian-Americans. A concept I never thought about but things like this intrigue me more!

One weird thing, I find myself reading more when I’m reading 2-3 books at the same time. Maybe not read all the same day, but just take turns on which days I read what. By the time I finish, I feel way more accomplished finishing with 3 and it gives me more of a push because I have a lot to read!

And how could I forget my brand new baby girl, Venom. I proudly bought this car a few weeks ago and am still getting used to all the new high tech-ness! She’s a dream and I’m so lucky to spend the next maybe 10 years of my life with her. She’s a beauty, ain’t she?

I’ve had this dream since I was 16 of adding a pink steering wheel cover. This cover was purchased at a local repair shop for $12, Amazon would be a good place to look too! Now I drive around with high spirits, it’s honestly the little things in life. I spend a lot of time in my car driving to work, school, the mall, might as well invest in the interior!

This week, the thought of life flying past by scared me. But it’s sort of like the wine glass half empty or half full, it’s just how you choose to look at it.

I chose to sit back and think of things I’ve done this week that make me genuinely HAPPY and plant my feet on the ground. This way, I’m READY to take on my 21st birthday next month with open arms and an open mind.

Can someone tell me, does turning 22 feel this way too?!

HAPPY SPOOOOOKY SEASON!

– Pauly ❤

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Happiness is a Ritual

The definition of the word, Ritual claimed by Google.

“A solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order.”

Has anyone wondered the key to happiness? Those days when you ask yourself when will the good days EVER start?

I can’t help but sit in bed and wonder why I led myself to those questions. I should be cherishing life everyday!! Waking up at 7 a.m!! Going on a jog!! Buying some groceries!!

Shaving my legs!! And being the best student, daughter, friend, grandchild, mentor, leader and feminist ever possible for the sake of my sanity and approval of those I love.

Wow that sounds like a lot, right? But this is a pretty average list of the small but BIG roles we maintain everyday. And for that reason, I think it’s easy to lose track of that genuine feeling of life (happiness) everyday in our lives.

Happiness is a ritual. Not a group ritual necessarily either, you’ll be happy for that later. It’s a commitment you make amongst yourself to keep light inside you. Literally a set of actions you need to establish in your life to keep balance or to restore it when insanity breaks loose.

For a prescribed order. No one knows this correct order and every order is different. But whichever destiny you have faith in, this order is meant to stay as an order and keep us from evil versions of ourselves.

Billions of people going through this complex journey, no wonder the answer only resides in you. It’s you, it really depends on you and the actions being taken to keep a stable relationship within yourself (happiness) !!

Ever heard of self-care? Lately the things that have kept my spirit running are the purchase of my new car (BMW gang!), a new gym I’ve just subscribed to, and the sense of getting my money together (heck yeah for new credit card!).

It feels new, gives me motivation and it stops me in my track once in awhile and reminds me of the good things coming my way in life. That’s key. I know I’m never getting today back or reliving the moment I stepped in my new car, so this sensation has got to last. Not for those glam moments, but for the sake of my mind.

These actions I give myself is a recipe for happiness. I give full effort in these tasks because that’s what I deserve. Neglect your actions and you’ll neglect your happiness. Sounds familiar right?

Stop what you’re doing. Think about your past few days and remember what’s been keeping that smile alive. Now keep doing what you’re doing because you’re about to ride a happy wave. I’ll be riding this wave with a glass of wine in my hand.

comment below your successes this month ❤ -Pauly

Treat Yourself Tips

By Paulina A. Marinero & illustrator from Positively Present, Dani DiPirro

So I’ve been super busy preparing content, creating new visuals and just over all new ideas for my beloved, precious PBC Magazine. Although life does seem to catch up to me, sometimes I have to stop and smell the roses – which is me, I’m the rose and I need to water myself. By doing so, I properly invest time to allow myself to grow emotionally and physically while stimulating my mind for better and  greater things.

So I’m passing these tips onto you because you deserve them and I know with whatever you’ve been doing whether it’s a project or unnecessary stress, you should stop and smell the roses yourself.

TREAT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF. 

  1. Paint your nails 

This might seem like a simple concept, but the amount of relaxation you take in mentally while focusing on painting your nails is almost life changing. You’re glamming yourself up ( for free ) and you’re choosing your favorite color of the month – what’s better than that? You’re practically decorating yourself with an expected beautiful outcome. Play some music or turn to your favorite Netflix show and indulge for the hour.

If you think you’re not good at painting your nails, try purchasing a small precise paintbrush and carve out the edges with nail polish remover for a natural cuticle look when you’re finished painting. Or you can wait till you’re in the shower to scrape off the edges with your nails, but don’t hurt yourself! Once you master basic nail painting, you can search on YouTube ways to design your nails and keep it interesting. Right now, I’m on the ‘glitter on one finger for each hand’ phase.

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2. Drink green tea regularly 

You don’t need me to tell you, but green tea has been proven time and time again to have ties supporting your immune system, your heart and your brain. While it’s increasing your blood flow to help you stay active, it’s also getting rid of free radicals that might have disturbed your stomach when you decided to eat that junk food late at night. I’ve been committed to drinking green tea every morning for the past few weeks and I have seen SUCH a huge difference with my skin. It’s radiant, fresh and not as texturized as it used to be.

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I’ve also been trying to switch my coffee urges with tea indulgences since the benefits outweigh the other, but just knowing I choose tea more often allows to me splurge on coffee when I desperately need it the most. It’s all about sacrifices and since green tea is also caffeinated, you know it has you covered you for the night or ready to start the day. In the morning, I feel accomplished drinking a whole cup of tea knowing it’s doing me good – and the results are stunning.

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3. Settle for a new show 

I used to not watch T.V as much or even Netflix – I never understood the hype about either. But when I started watching Netflix early last year and actually ENJOYING shows, it also became an episode of me time. I put my phone to the side, grab a snack and simply let the drama on-screen entertain me for the hour or two….or five.

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What helps finding a new show is watching what you LOVE. If you’re into modeling and that whole industry, binge the new seasons of ‘America’s Next Top Model’. If you’re into art, try watching ‘Skin Wars’ or ‘America’s Got Talent’. And if you’re into food like we all are, try watching ‘Cupcake Wars’ or ‘Chopped’. If you watch what you love, you won’t have a hard time putting your phone down and keeping up with it later. But while you’re on the frenzy of watching what you love, you can learn a lot more about your field and be inspired by what you see.

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4. Start saving

ENOUGH SAID. Don’t let me be the reason why you start saving up again. No, don’t do that to yourself. Save your money consistently and effectively. You will seriously thank yourself later when you plan for concerts and beach trips with your friends next year or even in a few months – don’t let yourself be that friend who doesn’t have money to hit the club or even go out for lunch. But most importantly, invest in your future experiences and precious moments.

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You might want to find a job first but stay committed to putting at least $5 in a savings account every pay check week. For some of you, putting $5 is too low – GOOD. Make the sacrifice and put to the side as much money as you realistically can into your savings account. Fight the urges to touch your savings unless for emergencies but trust me when I tell you this, once you start touching the treasure chest for small things, you’ll be back for more and more until it’s all gone. So not only should you save consistently, but save effectively too.

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5. Online shopping is therapy

After putting some money to the side every pay week, never forget that the rest of the money aside from gruesome bills to pay is ALL YOURS. The hard hours you spent working your ass off should be rewarded by purchasing the things you love and have been eyeing for the past week. You have every reason to feel entitled to your money and to use it whenever you’d like, that’s something no one can take away from you.

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So sit down and spend some time online browsing through your favorite store for the latest sales and newest arrivals. This is an amazing time to reflect on yourself and see how your style is constantly evolving for your fashion needs and dont’s. Scroll through, take your time and BAM you’ll be hit with the pair of shoes that’ll actually makes your jaw drop – pick those obviously. If you want to stay organized with your shopping, make a list or jot it down in your notes so when you get paid next week, you’ll know exactly where to look first.

Do yourself a favor and splurge on that stationary shelf from IKEA for your apartment. Or buy that new coffee machine you’ve been wanting for quicker and easier mornings. But if you also want to buy that bronzer blush from Too Faced Cosmetics, you got some cash to treat yourself.

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6. Touch yourself 

And I mean your breasts. Or that too. But I never thought this was an actual issue until I took a second to think about it myself. Touching my breasts isn’t something that I normally do just because my hands are occupied by other things like work and grabbing my phone. But take the time to touch your breasts and take care of them as best as you can. Touching yourself can increase the blood flow in your breasts and allow the cells to move around instead of stick in one place in risk of disease.

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How do I do it? While I take a shower and shave my armpits, I use Dove soap as my shaving cream because its creamy and super moisturizing – but aside from that, I use the left over Dove soap in the palm of my hand and make my way down to each breast and give a little massage. So not only am I moisturizing the skin around my nipple, but I’m finding the time to circulate the blood flow in my breasts. And besides, your girls are your best friends – LOVE THEM. *If you like feminine self care tips like these, comment below!

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So there you have it, my tips for the beautiful rose that you are. Use them, incorporate them into your routine and create your own. You are the master of your world, your own mind. In order to think clearly and positively, set away some time for yourself and indulge in self care practices. xoxo